Why Self Publishing My Book is the Right Path

Cover of My New Book

After a brief break from blogging, I’m back to report that my book, “Five Stones for Christians in Crisis” wil be available on Amazon.com in about two weeks. The book is a game plan for those struggling through a crisis in their lives and expands on a lot of the content in this blog.

I decided to self publish my book through CreateSpace, Amazon.com’s self publishing division. Although I had a complete proposal ready (based on M. Hyatt’s great proposal outline) and had queried a few agents, I decided not to wait around hoping they would contact me.

The thing about a traditional publishing route is that it’s really based more on how well you can market the book. It’s a business decision (great article here explaining this). These days, agents and publishers want to know just as much, if not more, about your platform as your content.

I wanted to spend this year actually selling my book rather than trying to get an agent to accept my proposal.

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The Best Question You Should Ask Yourself

Who are you?

That sounds like an odd question but it’s the best question you could ever ask yourself. If you don’t know who you are, then your life is really like a pinball, jumping from place-to-place and merely reacting to life.

I’ve asked that question to myself many times in the last two years as I’ve fought cancer. Mostly, I’ve asked it to myself so that I don’t waste time and get distracted. If you know who you are then you know what you do and where you are going.

For example, I’ve changed the way I eat but it’s not a diet. A diet starts and stops, which is why people fail at it so often. After it stops, they go back to their previous behavior.

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The Truth on Christians and the Divorce Rate

wedding rings

Do Christians divorce at the same rate as the general population?

Many seem to think so, including this writer for the Christian website Focus on the Family:

“Unfortunately, the divorce rate in the church is comparable to that of the culture at large.”

But that writer is wrong.

If you ask someone to check a box if they are divorced and to check a box if they are a Christian, that doesn’t necessarily show any kind of relationship between the two. Just because a person checks a box to indicate they are a Christian doesn’t mean they really are a Christian or that they actually put their religion into practice.

Or to put it another way: If you call yourself a Christian, do you actually read the Bible? Do you pray with your spouse and go to church regularly?

For those Christians who put their faith into practice, they do NOT divorce at the same rate as the general population, as this article point out:

The factor making the most difference is religious commitment and practice. Couples who regularly practice any combination of serious religious behaviors and attitudes — attend church nearly every week, read their Bibles and spiritual materials regularly; pray privately and together; generally take their faith seriously, living not as perfect disciples, but serious disciples — enjoy significantly lower divorce rates than mere church members, the general public and unbelievers.

The point I try to make in this blog is that putting your faith into practice can make a difference during tough times. Whether it’s reading the Bible or having faith, God is for you not against you, but you have to live out your faith.

If you are struggling through a divorce, you should read my book


Tree of Life: Great Movie that You Won’t See

The Tree of Life is a great movie. But you probably won’t go see it.

It lacks a “clean” storyline with a nice, resolved ending.

It lacks a riveting “who-done-it” plot.

It lacks twists and turns in the plot with great action scenes.

Well, at least it does have a superstar actor in Brad Pitt! But it is a great movie.

Amazon’s page for the movie has the most succinct description of the plot, although it falls way, way short of what the movie is actually about (kinda makes me laugh to see a movie like this simplified into two sentences):

The Tree of Life is the impressionistic story of a Midwestern family in the 1950′s. The film follows the life journey of the eldest son, Jack, as he tries to reconcile a complicated relationship with his father.

The power of this movie lies in the intersection of the spiritual and physical. There’s something else out there, so to speak, but it’s not aliens from outer space! (Special effects legend Douglas Trumbull [2001: A Space Odyssey and Close Encounters of the Third Kind] worked on this movie, which does not surprise me.)

You don’t get a clean integration of the spiritual and the physical in this movie. You don’t have a Patrick Swayze ghost talking to someone in the real world. Aliens don’t communicate via a nice keyboard melody and land on earth.

The greatness of this movie is how Terrence Malick tries to create with video what impressionist painters do with brushes. It’s not for everyone but if you like Art, you’ll love this. If you like poetry, you’ll love this movie. If you like a movie maker who is trying to hit a home run, you’ll like this.

Finally, this quote, which I just found but only confirms what I already guessed while watching the movie: “… Malick is a devout Christian and this is his big “God” film.”

Buy the movie here. I doubt you’ll catch it on the big screen ever again. You probably won’t watch it. But you should.

I talk about this movie in my book, available on Amazon. You should give it a read!


5 Things You Can Learn from A Child

I met a little girl this year who was diagnosed with cancer while she was in the second grade. I thought to myself: I had a hard time with cancer and chemotherapy as an adult much less a little kid. How did she get through it? (She did get through it and is now fine.)

But children can teach us a lot. My three children are 10 years old or younger, and I’ve learned that you completely forget what it was like to see the world through the eyes of a child.

With that in mind, here are 5 things my children have taught me that I try to emulate:

Have Short Memories. My kids can get upset about things but in just a few minutes, they’re back at it. They can get mad but soon enough, they’ll forget all about it. Adults aren’t like that — we hold grudges. We remember the hurts for days and even years. Forget about the past. Forget about the hurts. Let it go.

Play Hard. Kids love to play. Tonight, my 3-year-old was running around with his arms spread like an airplane. He wanted me to do it and I did. Felt weird but kids don’t care! Have fun! Enjoy life. After my survival from cancer, I tend to get serious but lately I’ve thought to myself: just have fun, too. God doesn’t want your life to be grim 24-7.

Imagine. My kids love to dream and imagine all kinds of things: that they’re soldiers, football stars, rock stars, pirates. They can take a stick off the ground and make it into a sword or magic wand. They see big trees and marvel at them. They talk about the moon, birds and animals all the time. That’s a great way to view the world!

We Need Each Other. My kids love having their mom and dad around and they need us both. They also love playing with their friends in the neighborhood — by far their favorite thing to do. We need each other. We were not made to be alone. That’s why I’m a big fan of getting involved in a church.

 We All Need God. I’ve got three great kids but it’s easy to see why we all need God, regardless of how “good” you think people are. Kids are selfish, they get jealous, and are usually looking out for themselves. Sure, kids can have big hearts but as a general rule, we aren’t born seeking God. This quote from David in Psalm 51:5 sums it up:

Surely I was sinful at birth, sinful from the time my mother conceived me.

Of course the older you get, the more you learn about how hard this world can be. Even the Bible says with much wisdom comes much sorrow. But the Bible says we also need to be transformed by renewing our mind. Maybe thinking about the wisdom of a child can do that in a small sense.

Is there anything your children or other children have taught you?


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